Single-arity
29 Jun
I’ve got a post up at iDiva about the frustrations of trying to meet men to date in a city where there are 20,000 or so more single women than men. (Check out that map. Hello, west coast!) It already seems like an uphill battle when you work an odd schedule that takes away most of your nights and weekends, and if you mix in your own anti-outgoing personality and weirdness about meeting new people, well, you’re cooking up a helluva recipe for a crazy cat lady.
I love that the first suggestion offered by a commenter is to go to church to meet men. I suppose I should have mentioned that the conversation in question was taking place between an agnostic and an atheist two agnostics. Ah, well.
wait a sec…which of us is agnostic and which is atheist? really, i’m technically an agnostic but sometimes i use ‘atheist’ as a catch-all phrase for non-believers, so i may have called myself an atheist. on the other hand, if you’re the atheist, never mind :)
(i actually don’t think the difference between atheism and agnosticism is really all that significant, to be honest, except in certain unusual cases of agnosticism…but i digress!)
I here there are a lot of nice men in jail. And then there are bloggers who sit around in their underwear all day.
Oops! I thought you were one of them damn dirty atheists! I’ll fix the post. :)
David, you are quite possibly correct on both counts. In which case I’m going to go cry in the car.
I think the operative word in your post on iDiva was “dateable.” That implies a whole lot that you don’t explain.
None of the following is personal, since I don’t know you. I used to complain about how hard it was to find good women until someone asked me if I was a good man. The cliche is “opposites attract” but the truth is that “like attracts like.” Step back from yourself and be as objective as you can be. Are you someone you’d want to date?
Or, as they said in the A&D treatment community, “dysfunction attracts codependency.” ;-)
Mike, I would fuck the shit out of myself.
Haha, just kidding.
In all seriousness, I think I make a badass girlfriend. I’m fun, I’m smart, I’m kinda cute, I’m mature, I’m silly, I’m a good kisser, I’m independent, I’m not very high-maintenance, I have a job, I pay my own bills, I love my family, I have hobbies, I don’t like yakking on the phone all the time, I like sex, I’m good to animals, I’m loyal, I’m responsible, I’m honest, I don’t expect dudes to pay my way on dates or buy me cheap crap to woo me, I’m not in any hurry to get married or have kids, etc.
Perfect, I ain’t. But I also ain’t completely undateable.
I apologise. I wasn’t asking you to explain or defend yourself. I was just passing along something passed on to me.
No need to apologize! It’s a fair question, and something worth thinking about. And, like everyone else, I get bogged down in what’s wrong with me to a ridiculous degree. So it gave me an excuse to think of good things about myself for once. :)
You don’t highlight your good points nearly enough, LT. :)