{"id":7242,"date":"2016-03-16T21:02:53","date_gmt":"2016-03-17T03:02:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/?p=7242"},"modified":"2016-03-16T21:05:11","modified_gmt":"2016-03-17T03:05:11","slug":"the-difference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/relationships\/the-difference\/","title":{"rendered":"The difference"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a data-flickr-embed=\"true\"  href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/theogeo\/25753162341\/in\/dateposted\/\" title=\"_MG_5968\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/farm2.staticflickr.com\/1456\/25753162341_977ab15515_z.jpg\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" alt=\"_MG_5968\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>My mom said something to me a few months ago, right after I had made the leap to move into my own place and try to start a new, better life. <\/p>\n<p>She said, &#8220;Linz, you don&#8217;t know what it&#8217;s like to have a man love you. You&#8217;ve not had it yet. When it happens, though, you&#8217;ll know it.&#8221; She said it with frustration. Not toward me, but toward all the men in the world who&#8217;ve hurt her baby girl. <\/p>\n<p>And at the time it was sort of like <i>Ouch, Mom<\/i>, but I knew what she meant.<\/p>\n<p>And she was right.<\/p>\n<p>I had no idea what it was like to feel completely comfortable in my own skin while in a relationship. To feel my own agency and worth but to want constantly to be a better person, a better partner, because I want to make his life better too. The feeling of being a team.<\/p>\n<p>Not to say insecurity isn&#8217;t always there, creeping around and poking its head in periodically. But to live without the constant drumbeat of anxiety and instead have it replaced by a safety net of love and acceptance? Incredible.<\/p>\n<p>I am grateful.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My mom said something to me a few months ago, right after I had made the leap to move into my own place and try to start a new, better life. She said, &#8220;Linz, you don&#8217;t know what it&#8217;s like to have a man love you. You&#8217;ve not had it yet. When it happens, though, you&#8217;ll know it.&#8221; She said it with frustration. Not toward me, but toward all the men in the world who&#8217;ve&hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[127],"tags":[908,2186],"class_list":["post-7242","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships","tag-flowers","tag-relationships"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1jWWl-1SO","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7242","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7242"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7242\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7244,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7242\/revisions\/7244"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7242"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7242"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theogeo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7242"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}